This has been an emotional week – heck, it’s been an emotional few days.
The phone rang around midnight a few nights ago and it was the Life Alert people. My mother-in-law’s alert button had gone off and when they tried to speak with her; there was no answer. So Joe got up (he had to be at work at 5) to go see what was going on.
Long story short – she fell, fractured her femur and had to have surgery. She’s 94.
A friend of mine was diagnosed with Pancreatic Cancer a few months back and we were thrilled to find out it wasn’t pancreatic cancer at all. That victory was short lived because it was stomach cancer and it claimed her life Friday evening. She was in her early 60’s.
My nephew’s wife had her baby. A healthy baby boy – Jason Ellis.
It’s the baby that brings it all in perspective. The cycle of life is such that we start out young and helpless; learn to be self sufficient and independent (if we’re lucky) and then come back around to the end older, wiser and with no regrets.
The discussions will begin on what to do about my mother-in-law. She has lived on her own for thrity years at least and up until now has done just fine. But she is at the point where she doesn’t want to leave the house much and her hearing aids aren’t aiding much..and now the fall. She will resist assimiliation – and she should. But she cannot be alone any longer. She will give a good battle; but it cannot be one she is allowed to win. The independence and self-sufficiency have gone.
Kathleen was a woman of great dignity, faith and privacy. I was glad to be welcomed into her fold and even then I was not in the deep circle. Close enough that she would call upon me to sing when she needed a first soprano and I had the good sense to know when I was being honored. We spoke a few months back and we talked about the last time we sang together at the Chicago Temple United Methodist Church. She wanted me to sing at the service of another friend and I was stuck in DC by bad weather and could not. It is a shadow of a regret.
And baby Jason who is his own little miracle. His folks had been trying for a second baby for some time and turned to a fertility specialized and here he is. He arrived a few days after his due date and had to be induced. I still say he was late because he is a male and would not ask for directions. But here is his – a representation that there are always beginnings in all things.
The dog hurt his leg again – he’s an English Setter and eleven years old. He still thinks he’s a puppy and thus will not take it easy. Because he has hurt his joints, the arthritis will begin to set in. His full cycle is starting. He is a wonderful dog and we have to start talking about what we are willing to do for him and his quality of life. Though that might not be a discussion to have for a few years yet.
And did I mention the Cubs are going to the playoffs for the second year in a row? Being a Cubs fan is proof of faith…or at least of suffering. No regrets there.
The emotions turn – as does the world. Will the wonders ever cease?